i do not normally write about the dark side. however recent developments have led me to ponder on the suddenness with which death visits!
one moment life is going on as usual, the world is a pleasant place and all is well. the next moment everything has changed. new status labels are in place. a wife has become a "widow", children are "orphans", in-laws are no more parents-in-law and the person becomes a past tense!
the process of death begins at birth and we are all geared to the eventuality in some way or the other. but it is the suddenness of the event that leaves me wondering "why". coping with such suddenness is not easy. nor does it happen overnight - to me the coping process is a lifelong process! avoiding the voids, filling the emptiness and erasure [ok, fading] of a person from our collective memories is perhaps part of the process but does it work?
longevity is something that we all look forward to and hope to achieve. but we have not yet developed the ability to look at the possibility of death squarely in the face and still live life on our terms, not overshadowed by the worry and fear of one day not being there!
one moment life is going on as usual, the world is a pleasant place and all is well. the next moment everything has changed. new status labels are in place. a wife has become a "widow", children are "orphans", in-laws are no more parents-in-law and the person becomes a past tense!
the process of death begins at birth and we are all geared to the eventuality in some way or the other. but it is the suddenness of the event that leaves me wondering "why". coping with such suddenness is not easy. nor does it happen overnight - to me the coping process is a lifelong process! avoiding the voids, filling the emptiness and erasure [ok, fading] of a person from our collective memories is perhaps part of the process but does it work?
longevity is something that we all look forward to and hope to achieve. but we have not yet developed the ability to look at the possibility of death squarely in the face and still live life on our terms, not overshadowed by the worry and fear of one day not being there!
